Update on looking at carbs like they are a poison

Last week I wrote about a new approach to carbs that I am trying out:

A new way to approach weight loss – a new way to think about carbs

This is the basic idea I am applying:

So here is a possible approach to weight loss. What if a mental change takes place that causes unhealthy carbs to go into the same kind of toxic/deadly category that cigarettes fall into? So, instead of seeing carb-rich foods as tempting, they start to be seen as poisonous. Into this poisonous category would go all the bad carbs like cookies, cake, ice cream, potato chips, pizza, soda, candy, french fries, etc. It might also be argued that bread, pasta, rice and potatoes all fall in the same category (for me they do). The only carbs that are safe are vegetables and fruits (and maybe beans). Vegetables – especially raw vegetables – can be eaten in unlimited quantities.

Here is the mindset: Carbs are as poisonous as cigarettes. Every time I look at something like a cookie or a slice of pizza or a candy bar, I say to myself, “Carbs are as poisonous as cigarettes”. Every time someone offers me a plate of cookies or a dessert, I say to myself (and sometimes out loud): “you know… those cookies are as poisonous as cigarettes.”

Does this work? Yes – it completely worked for me during the past week. I have been tempted by plates of brownies, bowls of potato chips, vending machines full of soda and snacks, my wife’s home made granola and pumpkin bread (both delicious), Valentine’s day candy, etc. for a week and I have been able to completely ignore it. Because it is poisonous. I have eaten nothing but fruits and vegetables, meat, cottage cheese and nuts for the last week.

Let me use the example of the bowl of potato chips. I was at an event and the potato chips were home made kettle chips. I have had them before from this caterer – they are unbelievably delicious. People were snarfing them down all around me because they are basically irresistible. But since they now fall into the “poison” category, I can’t eat them. What emotion went with not-eating-them? It was a weird emotion – kind of a sadness. Knowing that these potato chips are absolutely delicious and would bring pleasure, but also knowing that they are poisonous (because they cause me to get fat, leading to heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.), just felt sad. But I did not eat them.

I will be curious to see if this mindset is still working a month from now.

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How to increase your job satisfaction and advance in your career while making the world a better place

This video is entitled, “The ultimate customer service story is inspiring”. Notice how Ross Shafer relates the story and the effect that one employee had on him.

There are several things that we might take away from this story.

  • Maria Garcia had a big, positive effect on Ross Shafer’s life with her simple act of kindness and customer service.
  • If Maria garcia did this same kind of thing for a variety of people she comes in contact with, she is making the world a better place.
  • Ross Shafer had a big, positive effect on Maria Garcia’s life by taking the time to praise her with her employer.

Now think about how much better your world might be if you applied Maria Garcia’s mindset in your job. Would your actions make the lives of others better? Certainly. But also consider the side effects. Would your actions help your job security? Would they help your job satisfaction? Would they help increase your chances of advancement? Say that you applied Maria Garcia’s mindset across your life. What might happen?

And then look at Ross Shafer’s actions. We all interact with employees in stores, hotels, airports, etc. every day. What if we took the time to praise them when they go the extra mile, and to let their managers know that we appreciate the service? That would make the world a better place as well.

In these simple human acts of kindness we help others and we make the world a better, happier, more fulfilling place.

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25 Ways to Help a Fellow Human Being Today

This is an article that shows how to reach out and help others in such simple ways that you can do it today:

25 Ways to Help a Fellow Human Being Today

Too often the trend in our society is for people to be separated from either other, to be cut off from the great mass of humanity, and in doing so to be dehumanized a little bit more with each step….

The article shows steps you can take to re-humanize, and to help yourself in the process.

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A new way to approach weight loss – a new way to think about carbs

For many people, the problem with weight loss comes from cravings and temptations. Speaking from experience, a plate full of cookies or a big pizza sitting on the counter can be hard to resist. Is there a way to overcome these cravings? Is it possible to reframe carbs to make them less tempting?

For example, I do not smoke. As a person who had severe asthma as a child and teenager, the thought of doing anything that would further damage my lungs is unthinkable. Now imagine that I see a cigarette ad, or cigarettes being sold in a convenience store, or a pack of cigarettes sitting on a table. Am I tempted? Do I feel a craving? Do I have to consciously resist the cigarettes? Of course not. Since I decided not to smoke and have good reasons not to, I feel no temptation.

I do not drink alcohol. My father was an alcoholic and I learned everything I need to know about alcohol by watching that slow-motion tragedy. I took the lessons to heart. When I see a beer ad or a big beer display at the grocery store or when I walk into a restaurant that serves alcohol, am I tempted? Do I feel a craving? Do I have to consciously resist the alcohol? Not at all. I can sit in a bar all day and drink soda water. The thought never crosses my mind to order anything alcoholic. Since I decided not to drink and have good reasons not to, I feel no temptation.

But with carbohydrates, I tend to see them as tempting. Many people can start a diet and have it derailed by cravings. Many more can complete a diet, then go back to “eating normally” and gain the weight back.

So the question arises: is there a way to treat carbs in the same way that I treat cigarettes or alcohol, so that carbs are no longer tempting?

The case can be made that refined carbohydrates are toxic. This article…

Societal Control of Sugar Essential to Ease Public Health Burden, Experts Urge

…provides a nice summary of the problem:

sugar is fueling a global obesity pandemic, contributing to 35 million deaths annually worldwide from non-communicable diseases like diabetes, heart disease and cancer.

That is a lot of deaths. And at a personal level, no one wants to get diabetes. Diabetes is a disgusting, expensive, life-sucking disease that, for most of us, is completely preventable.

So here is a possible approach to weight loss. What if a mental change takes place that causes unhealthy carbs to go into the same kind of toxic/deadly category that cigarettes fall into? So, instead of seeing carb-rich foods as tempting, they start to be seen as poisonous. Into this poisonous category would go all the bad carbs like cookies, cake, ice cream, potato chips, pizza, soda, candy, french fries, etc. It might also be argued that bread, pasta, rice and potatoes all fall in the same category (for me they do). The only carbs that are safe are vegetables and fruits (and maybe beans). Vegetables – especially raw vegetables – can be eaten in unlimited quantities.

If this mental shift could be mastered, then it would be possible to live life without temptation. “Would you like a piece of cake?” would sound about as tempting as, “Would you like to smoke a cigarette?”, which is to say not tempting at all. The only problem with this approach is the fact that it may not be trivial – it requires un-wiring decades of sugar consumption starting in infancy.

With “bad carbs” out of the picture, weight loss and weight maintenance would become much easier. The daily food intake starts to look almost exactly like the Dukan diet or the Atkins diet.

I am giving this approach a try.

[OK - here is a progress report after 1 week: Update on looking at carbs like they are a poison. It worked really well!]

See also this article:

How to lose weight – the one true secret is revealed

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How your attitude can improve the quality of your life

If you take the time to read this short article…

Personal Development Challenge of the week

…you will find that it contains this insightful quote:

When you start to change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change. To have a better experience it’s not about changing the experience it’s about changing the perception and attitude.

This quote points out, in a very succinct way, a simple fact of life: We each control our outlook. By changing our outlook, we have the ability to change our lives.

The following post describes another outlook-changing technique that is proven to work:

The incredible value of gratitude

Gratitude sets in motion a chain of thoughts, feelings and events that can bring about a great deal of happiness and well being.

See also: The Science of Happiness

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Great examples of kindness

There was a post on Reddit this week that exemplifies a simple act of kindness and a reward from it that far exceeded the investment:

The best $7.50 I have ever spent…

So, I walked into a Safeway today… and I stopped at the deli. A lady was waiting there. She looked to be an impoverished little elderly black woman (I am not being classist, or ageist or sexist or racist here, I just like to visually paint pictures) anyway, she said she had been waiting for 45 minutes and no one would wait on her. When they finally did, she asked the price of an egg roll and the fried wontons. It was evident she didn’t have much. Finally in frustration, she said, “Forget it,” and started to leave. That just felt so wrong. I called out, “Stop, stop, you can’t leave, come back here. Pick your dinner out. I’ll buy it.” It came to a mere $7.50 or so. The thought of someone walking home hungry, feeling broke and mistreated just felt so wrong. I told her that I had just sold a book and the meal was no big deal. She asked about the book and I told her about my friend, Darryl’s cancer and how it was important to get it done to honor what a gift he is to me and how much I love him. She said that her husband had cancer. We walked out and I grabbed her a copy of the book and signed it for her. She said she had a book she was working on. She hugged me and said, “I love you.” For a mere $7.50 I got an “I love you,” from a stranger. Best $7.50 I have spent in a long time.

You can find an even more powerful example here:

One way to create meaning in your life

I was day tripping to Vancouver from Seattle and stopped in for lunch at a little cafe. From my window I saw a young teenage girl out in the cold, squatted down in a closed up business’s doorway, holding a small bundle in her arms. She was panhandling, people were mostly walking by ignoring her. She looked just broken…

This video shows how simple little acts of kindness can have a ripple effect:

If you would like to learn more about kindness, these sites can help: RandomActsOfKindness.org/ and HelpOthers.org.

RAK week is coming up in February.

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The ultimate gift: five ways to give a piece of yourself and save a life

Here are five different ways that you can donate a piece of yourself to someone else and save a life:

#1 – Donate Blood
A blood donation is the simplest, easiest way to donate a piece of yourself. You go to a blood donation center, spend an hour or two there and proceed with the rest of your day. Your donated blood helps accident victims, people needing surgery, cancer patients, etc. You can learn more about donating blood and find donation centers in your area here and here and here:

#2 – Donate bone marrow
Members of Reddit have been encouraging each other to become bone marrow donors to help Leukemia patients, as seen in this post:

IAMA registered bone marrow donor because of a Reddit post. I just got notified of a match.

He describes the process in this way:

There are two kinds of donation processes. One is surgical where they would put me under general anesthesia, make up to four small incisions above my hips, insert a hollow needle into my pelvis, and draw out up to a quart of bone marrow. The second option is similar to dialysis. You are hooked up to a machine for 3-6 hours, an IV line takes blood out of one arm, passes it through a machine that withdraws the blood stem cells, and returns the rest to your other arm.

I was told that since my patient is so young the doctor will probably request the surgery. Something about the stem cells being withdrawn from the pelvis is better for infants. Don’t know, not a doctor.

The recovery time for the surgery is 2 days out of work and then take it easy for 2 weeks. The surgery should be an out patient procedure, possibly an overnight hospital stay.

You can learn more about becoming a bone marrow donor here and here:

#3 – Donate a Kidney
This article describes the increasingly popular option of donating a kidney, often to a complete stranger or as part of a swap that helps a stranger:

Pair of kidney transplants set for today to change four lives

Brad Dean is in perfect health, but just after 7:30 a.m. today, Duke University Medical Center surgeon Deepak Vikraman-Sushama will press a scalpel against his abdomen and slice.

That cut will kick off a cascade of four operations on four patients – and perhaps a new era for kidney transplants in North Carolina.

Dean, 43, president of the Myrtle Beach, S.C., Chamber of Commerce, is a so-called “altruistic donor.” He offered to give a kidney to an unknown recipient simply because he thinks it’s the right thing to do.

Altruistc kidney donations are becoming more frequent:

Ga. nurse donates kidney to patient she barely knew

You can learn more about altruistic donations here and here and here:

#4 – Become an organ donor
If you are involved in a fatal accident, you can sign up to make your organs available to people waiting for transplants. In this way, your death brings new life to others. You can learn more about organ donation here and here:

#5 – Donate your body to science after you die
After you die, your body can be donated for use in training new doctors to save lives. This article describes the process:

Most donated bodies go to medical schools. The how-to is pretty straightforward. Googling “willed body program” plus your state or poking around the Web site of your favorite med school will turn up detailed information and often a donor form. The institution may send you a wallet card to notify authorities of its claim at the time of death. Be sure to discuss the matter with your family and doctor so they’ll know what to do (and won’t freak) when the time comes.

What do med schools do with cadavers? Pretty much what you’d expect–dissection, surgery practice, etc–but a few details might not have occurred to you…

See also this article and this video:

Consider the possibilities
No matter how you choose to do it, your donation(s) will help save lives. It is an incredibly meaningful way to help your fellow human beings.

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How to lose weight – the one true secret is revealed

Millions of people have resolved today to “lose weight”. In the Age of Obesity that is currently being experienced in the developed world, losing weight is something on many people’s minds.

So how do you lose weight? And how do you keep it off? On Reddit, a man who lost 260 pounds shared his secret. And it is so profoundly simple:

IAMA guy who lost 260 pounds without the use of surgery, weight loss drugs or specialised diet.

Just reading that title creates curiosity. If he didn’t use surgery, weight loss drugs or specialized diet, how could he possible do it? This tiny paragraph reveals the universal secret to losing weight:

Monitoring my calories every day. I cut down my intake to 1200 from what it used to be (around 3000/3500) per day, and started exercising. I walked. A lot. Ultimately, when dealing with weight loss, it’s 80% diet, 20% exercise. I pretty much stuck to that.

Someone asks, “How did you manage your hunger pangs when you started cutting calories?” He adds:

That was without a doubt the hardest part. Sitting in my room, wanting to go and get a snack. The cravings were insane, I’ve never felt anything like it. I dealt with them by continuously telling myself ‘it’s not worth it’….

This part is the key: “The cravings were insane, I’ve never felt anything like it. I dealt with them by continuously telling myself ‘it’s not worth it.’”

This appears to be the only way. How do you lose weight? You somehow control hunger pangs and cravings and stop putting food in your mouth (see below for one technique to help with this). It is all about not putting food in your mouth. It is about doing that every day. To keep the weight off, it means doing that every day for the rest of your life.

Does exercise help? Yes. But there is no way to get rid of excess calories through exercise. If you “accidentally” eat 10 Oreo cookies, you now have to walk or run six or so miles to eliminate those calories. There simply is not enough time in the day for most working people to exercise away their excess calories. You have to control hunger pangs and cravings and stop putting food in your mouth if you are going to lose weight.

What this means is that it is, in theory, incredibly easy to lose weight. All you have to do is stop putting food in your mouth. Unfortunately, for most people, hunger pangs and cravings make that simple task very difficult.

Apparently, for the majority of human beings, there is a part of the brain that is wired so that “eat” is the default setting. That “eat” signal is often triggered visually – for example, when you see pizza, cookies, cake, potato chips, etc. sitting around, but also when you see food commercials, drive past restaurants, see pictures of food in magazines, walk into a convenience store, etc. The “eat” signal is very strong – as he puts it, “The cravings are insane.” But the only way to lose weight is to overpower the cravings with conscious control.

The only way is to stop putting food in your mouth. Every time your brain says, “eat”, you have to override it so that no food enters your mouth. Every time you see (or are reminded of) cookies, cake, pizza, potato chips, soft drinks, etc. and it triggers a craving, you have to override it so that no food enters your mouth. The problem is, “The cravings are insane.”

Either the conscious brain or the cravings win. If the cravings win, the result is weight gain. If the conscious brain wins, weight loss happens.

Many people are able to get into a pattern where they control the cravings and lose weight for a period of time. They enter what can only be described as a special mental state where cravings are completely controlled by the conscious mind. This state might last for a month or a year, until some weight goal is reached. Then the special mental state is broken, and cravings are allowed to win again. This is why weight is almost always regained after a diet. The only way top keep weight off is to control the cravings – and therefore total calorie intake – every day for life.

Why am I writing this post? There are two reasons. One is to help you understand the yin and yang of weight loss. The equation is so simple: To lose weight, stop putting food in your mouth. The problem is that hunger pangs and cravings are constantly encouraging you to put food in your mouth. Control the cravings and you win. You lose weight.

The other is to remind myself of the yin and yang of weight loss. And also to answer this question: Is there anything that you can do about the cravings? I lost 50 pounds last year using the Dukan diet. The great thing about any low-carb regime like the Dukan diet is that it significantly reduces cravings. Once you eliminate the cravings, it is much, much easier to lose weight. With the Dukan diet I had very good control over cravings for 6 months. But once I reached my weight goal and started eating carbs again, it was much harder to control what I put in my mouth. I have gained about half of it back, and I want to lose that weight again.

This post is a pep talk to myself – I need to completely cut off carbohydrates again. I know it works, so I need to do it again. And this time it would probably be smart to stay off the carbs permanently. That would have been unthinkable a year ago. Now it is starting to seem obvious. Carbs, at least for me, really do seem to be addictive at some level. And the more I read, the more convinced I am that carbs are toxic at some level. By eliminating carbs, I think my life will be much better.

The tradition with New Year’s resolutions – whether they involve eating less, hitting the gym, cleaning the house, procrastinating less or whatever – is that the discipline lasts about a week or so. Then it collapses. Gyms, for example, are packed the first week of the new year. Then they empty back to normal levels again. How to maintain the discipline? This page can help:

The Ten Steps to Being Better

Happy new year!

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An interesting way to think about your life – slowing down

This video suggests that there are advantages – and significant ones when it comes to health – to slowing down:

Its message is intertwined with this quote:

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, he said: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

And there is an aspect of mindfulness involved, as described here:

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.

For more information, this search is useful: how to slow down

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A great example of something getting better – teen pregnancies

Imagine that, as a society, we decided that something needed to get better. Then we took action on many fronts in an attempt to make it better. And then imagine that it actually did get better by a significant degree. It would be something to celebrate! That is exactly what is happening with teen pregnancy, as described in this article:

Teen pregnancy rate drops

It didn’t drop by a little – it dropped by half over the course of 20 years, and it is affecting millions of lives.

Why is teenage pregnancy a problem that needs to get better? The article puts it this way:

The prevention of teen pregnancies can save the state billions, said Elizabeth Finley of the nonprofit Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention Campaign of North Carolina. She said pregnant teens are more likely to drop out of high school and require public assistance, while their children are more likely to be incarcerated.

What has society done to address this problem? The article lists a number of reasons, including:

  • “At health departments, schools, community centers and Boys and Girls clubs across the state, teens have been getting the word on resisting peer pressure, the riskiness of unprotected sex and the negative effects of becoming parents before age 20.”
  • Abstinence programs
  • “state-mandated sex education”
  • “cable television shows such as “Teen Mom,” which serve to de-glamorize the lives of very young parents”
  • “more closely targeted public-health efforts”
  • “North Carolina’s health departments have gotten really sophisticated at knowing which ZIP codes might have boys and girls at risk”
  • Etc.

Things can get better. It often involves a team effort.

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